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Being Uncomfortable with Love

The biggest reason we are uncomfortable with love is FEAR.

Stop fearing loss.

A common reason for not being able to receive love is a prior experience of losing someone you loved, whether it was from death, a break-up, or for some other reason that has scarred you. If you spend all of your life pushing aside love given to you on the off-chance that the person offering it might withdraw it, you will always feel cynical and unsure, which is not a comfortable or happy place to be. Instead, embrace the love that they are offering and go with the flow, expecting those who offer you love to stay around.

Breaking the Love block is to learn to Love you.

This might be the hardest step of all but if you don’t love yourself that much, receiving love is impossible because you don’t believe that you deserve it. If this is the case, start working on why you can’t love yourself so well, including reading 30 Days to Freedom Becoming Authentic and practicing the art of meditation to help you explore these issues. Remember that every person is special and that you are very deserving of love.

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Top 3 reasons why woman over 40 are having the best sex of their lives!

#1 Self Love

My #1 rule is “Self-love is the Best love” Being older you have lived a good amount of life and learned some lessons.  Most women over 40 are self-assured and confident.  They know who they are. Nothing opens your soul more during love making then feeling comfortable…with yourself and your partner.

#2 You take care of yourself

The body affects the mind and the mind affects the body. Keeping your body fine is something you do well. You are eating right and getting daily exercise.

#3 You love to have sex

Not only do you have a rich desire, also you have great partner. Together you are moving mountains of emotional baggage’s and building power empires together.

Here are a few other tips to keep you going for years to come

Keep your expectations

When you seek pleasure you will find it. Always enter a sexual experience expecting to be pleased. Because you understand that pleasure comes in many forms, from intriguing conversation to shape shifting orgasms, keep your mind open to how you receive pleasure. Remember to be grateful for all you have received .


And… Breathe

Release and let go with your inner voice

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A History of Emotional Wounds: The Inability to Love

Not everyone is meant to follow society’s norms and live a conventional life. Not all are equipped for a happy married existence like most people. Some are just not built this way. There are individuals who fail to realize stable relationships simply because they do not completely understand what it is. And the reason for this is they did not witness it themselves in their own homes.


There are people who never learned to trust because they were not provided adequate necessities for survival. They never learned patience due to excessive and strict demands. They never learned to care because when they were in desperate need of help, there was no one there to give it.  They never learned to be faithful because the people who were meant to be their role models were themselves disloyal. And how can they understand what a healthy and stable relationship is when all they can remember are the constant and never-ending arguments at home?


It is the simple and plain truth that one cannot give what one never had. This is the sad reality of people whose lives were destroyed before they even began. It is for this reason that there are those who cannot love even if they try.


Yet many still make an effort to enter into relationships believing that they have learned from their unfortunate experiences. But as much they deny and repress the existence of these character flaws, their failings will unavoidably surface and ruin whatever they attempt to build. No amount of love they receive will suffice because the emptiness runs deep. Thus, their relationships are almost always doomed to fail.


Some however, after a number of failed attempts at building relationships are finally able to recognize their inability to love. They have come to accept it and instead withdraw and become emotionally distant. And this is one reason why there are people who choose to live alone.


Recognizing one’s emotional wounds is the first step towards rebuilding oneself. Realizing that romantic relationships cannot fill the void left by a history of neglect and mistreatment is necessary in order to begin the healing process. Once this realization is made, it therefore becomes a choice between living a life of solitude and seeking help in order to heal.


Healing starts within. Grab a free copy of the 7 love blocks ebook to find whats holding you back and how you can move forward.


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Top 3 Things Women do Wrong when Giving Head

Top 3 Things Women do Wrong when Giving Head

  1. Inhale on the approach

Most women, for some reason, take a deep breath in when they get ready to give head. They think they’re INHALING his penis. No! You’re sucking. If you notice your shoulders go up and your jaw closes.  When it comes to giving head you should EXHALE. When you breathe out your shoulders fall down and your jaw opens up. You increase your mouth capacity by 33%.  The more you can get in the more he’ll love it.


  1. Not using tongue

What do you do with your tongue when you’re giving head? Many don’t even think about it. We spend most of our time trying to get things out of the way. Well when you stick out your tongue you create space within your mouth, as well as a sensation in his shaft that will drive him mad. The increased wetness allows you to make wonderful sound effects.


  1. Wrong Attitude

I cannot stress this enough. You have to enjoy giving head. Your personal attitude about it must be positive. The more joy you find in doing it, the more enjoyable the experience will be. It is a complete waste of your mouth miles (very suck is a mile) and his penis time. Having the right mental attitude about fellatio is what sets you apart from others. Learning how to find joy in giving head take passion and commitment.

With over 30 years of Fellatio experience, Nikeema have sucked her far share and have learned some things. Though our experiences are not unique and we all are in search for the answers, some have questions about how they can make the experience more enjoyable. Nikeema has found the answers and shares them in her Art of Fellatio class all across the country.

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